About Mumscrum

I am, first and foremost, a wife and mother to a great husband and three great kids.  I am grateful to live in my favorite state, Indiana!  Admittedly a huge sports fan, I was basically unaware of rugby until my son’s 8th grade spring semester.  [When I’m not watching rugby, you can find me watching IU and Indianapolis Colts football, IU and Butler basketball or auto racing -I am from Indiana, after all!]  A friend of mine played rugby, and I’d hear the word every now and then.  But during that spring of 2010, the sport of rugby and I became close friends when our son started playing.  We now have 2 active ruggers, 1 touch judge (my husband), and 1 mom who launders and feeds!

I wanted a resource for parents that would help make rugby seem not so foreign.  There are many wonderful rugby resources available for coaches and players, but I was having trouble finding something for someone like me – a relative newbie parent who patted herself on the back for knowing basically how a rugby ball is moved on a field, and for figuring out what the words “knock on” meant this past season.  (And let’s be real, sometimes I was just happy to be able to find the pitch!)  I thought if I was still on a learning curve after 4 years of watching the sport, other parents might be in the same boat.  My hope is that Mumscrum can be a window into rugby through a parent’s eyes, and my own experiences.  

Best wishes for a great day at the pitch! – Karen Ritter

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Father’s Day, Ray Green, Rugby and Greatness

Indiana – Today we celebrate Father’s Day, and while it may be a cliché, the simple words of “Thank you, Dad” still hold such great meaning.  I think the gifts we give dads on Father’s Day pale in comparison to the gifts they give us, the best ones being intangibles such as wisdom and love.  You may be curious as to how this ties in with rugby, so let me explain.

when i was great, by Ray Green

when i was great, by Ray Green.

Over Christmas, I bought myself a present for my stocking – this little book called When I Was Great, by Ray Green (Cal Rugby Golden Bearhusband and father).   I peeled off the packaging, settled in a comfy chair with some hot cocoa, and opened the fresh pages.  Forty-five minutes later, my brief respite from Christmas season duties was over way too soon but fortunately I was left with many things to contemplate.  The book found its way to a shelf, winter settled in, and still what Ray said in his book stayed with me.

I bring this up on Father’s Day, because as Ray mentions in his book, it was on Father’s Day in 2012 that, as he says, “his mind was blown.”  He discovered something in himself that I think we all strive to achieve – greatness.  In this lovely book, Ray shares his lifelong journey of seeking greatness.  “I decided a long time ago that I was going to be GREAT,” he states on the very first page.  He leads us through his different sports endeavors, through his years as a Cal Rugby Golden Bear under the tutelage of the great Jack Clark, all the way to his playing for the USA Eagles.  But as it goes for most of us, nothing was easy.  Injuries kept popping up, and while after reading this I think Ray must be one of the toughest men on the planet, the injuries did curtail his rugby playing career.  And yet he kept striving for that elusive greatness.

It was the way Ray found out he was great that is so poignant on Father’s Day.  Of course, it was through his children with the assistance of his wonderful wife.  Ray brilliantly writes, “We all see the world through lenses. Some of us wake up with a fresh lens/perspective every morning and others of us keep dusty, old, outdated ones around for far too long.  It’s all about the layers of life that we choose to apply to our world.”  Brilliant.

Me and My Dad many years ago

Me and My Dad many years ago

Ray has given his children not only the gift of a great father but the gift of great wisdom as well.  My own father gave me this gift, too – simple yet profound.  The best advice my dad ever gave me was “It’s ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them.”  It’s not new, it’s probably been said a thousand times, but the fact that my dad said it to me made all the difference.  Dads are good at this, I think.

Of course, I have only part of my Father’s Day shopping done, and it’s, well, here!  But, that’s better than what it could have been since until Thursday, I thought it was next weekend.  The part I did get done is good – my husband will get to see our USA Eagles take on the New Zealand All Blacks in November at Soldier’s Field in Chicago.  Of course, I’m going, too. And after last night’s valiant effort versus Japan, we are excited to share this Father’s Day gift together!

Works Cited:  Green, Ray. When I Was Great. San Bernadino, CA: Ray Green, 2013. Print. Ebook.

Check out Ray’s book at http://www.wheniwasgreat.com!

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